The energy of dating

Purpose & dating

“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born, and the day you find out why.”

Mark Twain

Part of your relationship to dating is about your purpose. What do you want from your dating? What do you want from life? What are you going to talk about on your first date? When someone asks you to explain your life and what gets you out of bed in the morning, they’re really wanting to know what your purpose is. Charismatic people have a purpose. Leaders have a purpose. Artists have a purpose. Do you?

Journal

What are you looking for in the dating game?

To get find your confidence again ….?

Or to make more friends?

Or to have more sexual confidence?

Be clear on what it is you want from this.

What is your life purpose?

What is your New York purpose?

Purpose in New York

If you’re a born-and-bred New Yorker you have family here and that’s cool. But if you’re one of the many expats or outsiders living in this city then you need to show New York, energetically, that you have a right to be there. One of the best ways of doing this: what is your purpose being in New York?

Having a reason, or purpose, to be in New York City is one of the best ways to get the city on your side — and an even better way to get into the dating game.

Additionally, many New Yorkers want to date someone with passion and purpose. These qualities are a turn on, but they also signal energetically that you’re able to play ball with the dating world’s astral code.

Purpose is also a great way to deal with difficulties and challenges, which you will greet on this dating adventure. Purpose is also the most important thing for you to find in life, and it can change as you do. You can read more about purpose over here at Maston Kipp.

Fear is also a sign that you are getting closer to your purpose. So if this dating thing is making you nervous, know that you’re hitting a roadblock and need to get past it. Perhaps your purpose is getting back into the dating pool (trauma and grief, after all, want us to head back into our caves. But by soldiering on you are heading one step closer to what turns you on in life.)

What to do if you don’t have a purpose?

If you don’t have a purpose or family in New York you have to think pretty carefully about what you’re actually there. Why would you spend that much money on rent and food and health when you could be elsewhere? If you’re purposeless, then the best thing to do is find a short-term purpose and build on it. Use the New Moon to create and chart out a monthly purpose. Something like:

Embodying your feminine in a city that runs on masculine energy.

Getting in touch with your predator side to get out of your victim programming (note: if you’re doing this you need to go after what you want in job, friendship, career, but you still need to get desires fulfilled in the dating and romance sector through the feminine impulse — which is never a yang, active chasing energetic for women or those who have a strong feminine essence. More on this in the next chapter)

Becoming an expert dater in New York (you could do this as an energetic exercise, which means this course will be great for you).

These are all things that will serve you well until you find purpose. Realize you were born for a purpose and that life is about getting one step closer every day.

New York is a city of astral and swiftly-developing structures. Find purpose — and this will help immensley in dating and in your life in the city.

LISTEN: Now you are going to get quiet and lie down with your headphones and find out more about what your real purpose is in dating.

ANSWER

What was your purpose in dating?

Did it feel good?

Often the subconscious wants acceptance, belonging or something else. If you can look at this subconscious need and trace it back to an earlier time, and heal that need (love from dad, acceptance from kids at school etc) then you will become more magnetic in your dating life, since you won’t be using dating as a way to fulfill your unmet needs.

Did you have any uncertainty, fear or any other emotion?

What did you want to feel throughout this dating experience?

Map out that feeling or cluster of qualities and emotions that you want to feel in your life and in yourself. Known as core-desire feelings.

(Eg: sparkly, powerful, joyful, light, etc)

What did your heart need to express?

Was there any reaction or pain around this desire?

What did that feel like?

To repeat - as this is important:

Often the subconscious wants acceptance, belonging or something else. If you can look at this subconscious need and trace it back to an earlier time, and heal that need (love from dad, acceptance from kids at school etc) then you will become more magnetic in your dating life, since you won’t be using dating as a way to fulfill your unmet needs.

Also:

Sometimes we do things to feel a certain way, that is, to feel a core desired feeling. But knowing that we already have that core desired feeling within us decreases the pressure we put on a desired outcome or activity.

Instead, we can train ourselves to enjoy the core desired feeling deep with us, and from this expansive place we then draw in opportunities, people and experiences that match this feeling. Like, after all, attracts like.

In this way, you don’t rely on the dating game to help you feel a certain way. This kind of thinking has a great rate for failure. Instead you take the feeling you want to feel into the dating experience and it gives you a charisma and depth that people will want to be around. That feeling gets magnified by the experiences it attracts, and it starts to replicate. You can’t lose. The Universe is a mirror that can magnify your heart and your desires.

In an Inner Space Patterning, focusing on what you want to feel is a great way of laying down new neural pathways. Over time these new neural pathways replace the old ones that are made up of lack, pain and smallness. After all, the mind doesn’t know the difference between a real and made up thought. When you start to operate on these newer and brighter neural pathways (that are connected to your core desired feelings) you will expand into more joy, self love and soulful expression.

Next we are going to look at feminine essence.