Yin receptivity
Last chapter we looked at what you are consciously seeking in the dating game, and how you feel about your feminine essence. We looked at how the masculine should ideally take responsibility for any heart-overlap that arises in casual dating situations. Now we’re going to look at ways the feminine draws in what she wants. And —
How the polarities CALL IN WHAT THEY WANT
Know that the feminine draws in what she wants.
The masculine chases after it.
This is 101 — the balance of ying and yang. Meaning — if you’re in your feminine essence and longing to attract a partner, or some exciting dates, then you need to energetically draw that person/situation to you. The universe is your playground and you can have anything you want — but you need to be clear and you need to feel deserving of it on a deep, yin level. (This is why we included the ISP on feminine essence in the last chapter.)
To be clear: you don’t chase, you don’t make the first call and you don’t give into the energetics of action, direction and/or desperation. The feminine essence has for centuries known to draw in the masculine is the way. Only in recent years with feminism and other practices inspired by capitalism and the industrial age have women forgotten that they get what they want indirectly. Venus the goddess of love, after all, is known to absorb our awe and attention, whilst her opposite energy Mars, is known to chase.
Some might see this as politically incorrect but feminism has nothing to do with the polarity of our inner masculine and feminine energies, since we are all a blend of the two.
If you inhabit the feminine essence in you, then you need to draw in your dates, and not chase after them. It’s called Yin receptivity. A woman who is interested in dating men, or a feminine woman who is wanting to draw in a partner of any gender or persuasion — she needs to be in a yin receptive state to attract a man who will love her for her.
A king to make her a queen.
That means female dating apps where the woman makes the first move are a no from the get-go. Although they are great for dealing with harrassment in online dating, from the first moment you are emodying the masculine energy. This conveys to the universe that you don’t trust it to send you what your feminine essence needs.
You need to be the feminine yin, which holds fast and steady in confidence, trust and strength.
ying receptivity is AUDACIOUS
Yin receptivity is rebellious in this day and age. And that’s why it works. You create a bubble of magnetism and charisma around you when you decline to use the masculine to go after what you desire. Sure, you can use your masculine at work and on the subway, but it doesn’t work in the world of romance so well. This is why we see high-powered female CEOS missing out on the romance part of things in their lives. Other ways to feel into your feminine receptivity is through feminine practices such as bathing with crystals and all the things; shopping with girlfriends; dancing to music; embodying your queen. Alexandra Roxo and Sahara Rose are great resources for this.
NOW Write a list
Write down a list of qualities you want on your dates. What the ideal person/experience will be like. Where. Who. What Why. This is a great way to start drawing these desires toward you.
Be specific.
If it’s about a person:
Age range — 28 - 45. I want to date someone who is creative, joyful, funny and inspiring. Works full time. Lives in Manhattan or Brooklyn. Is looking for something serious or longer term. What are the dealbreakers. Where can you relax. Why? How do you want to feel when you meet this person?
if it’s about a sotuation: ie) you’re calling in a type of date. What are the dealbreakers. Where can you relax. Why? How do you want to feel when you meet this situation?
Now GO BACK TO the core-desired qualities you want to feel from day 3.
“I want to feel sexy, royal, energetic, intense, etc.”
Choose one or two authentic qualities that you feel you were born to feel or that you can locate within yourself. For me (as an example) I have a resonance with DELIGHT and feeling EMPOWERED. Why? Because delight makes me feel joyful and expansive — whilst empowered makes me feel sexy and strong.
As I said before, knowing what you want to feel in life is a great way to attract experiences that can match that feeling, oftentimes surprising you (the universe can be creative in giving you want you want and need). “Thanks Universe for sending me xxx, I had no idea this person/situation would be so powerful — and yet you showed me I can feel xxx.”
Doubts & fears
Once you’ve written down your list you need to work on any doubts, fears or wounds that arise within you. If you have triggers or feelings that come up related to past relationships or heartbreaks then check out my course THE HEARTFUL — a course to heal heartbreak. It has Inner Space Patternings that reprogram wounds around loss, sadness and shame. Once you have cleared these wounds your yin-receptive deservingness increases and your ability to call in what you want abounds.
Now what?
Once you’ve done all this you need to sit confidently in your feminine yin essence and receptivity and be confident that the universe is going to send you what you want, and that you have the yin power to draw in what you are asking for. If the people who message you for dates don’t sound ideal then say no, politely but firmly, and move on. This will encourage the right person to find you.
Also know that the energy of dating is messy, so by all means allow for slips ups, for boring dates, dull dates, missed connections etc — and see where experience takes you. Don’t lose heart. Don’t feel the need to be perfectionist. Go back and look at your purpose, and know how that fits into the wild cards you may draw.
And remember, if you’re clear on why you’re dating then you can adjust these parameters. If you’re looking for fun and to build your confidence you can be more open to meeting people with similar but different qualities on your list. I advise you not to draw in THE ONE from the get-go, as dating is a great tool of awakening and this time spent exploring is great for your future self.