dating and wounds

What to do if you’re triggered by your date or rejected?

There is only one thing to do when you’re triggered by dating — or anything — and that is to find out what the feeling is, and then trace this feeling back to the first time it happened in your childhood or adolescence. And clear it.

This is known as an emotional wound.

Sketching out the characteristics of a wounded heart space often leads you back to earlier times in your life when you felt the same qualities. This emotional pattern or wounding, that you’ve carried all along in your life, repeats itself when triggered by contemporary circumstances.

Eg: A young child touches a dog and gets bitten. She now has a samskara about dogs and every time as an adult she sees a dog she will feel nervous. As an adult, if she goes back to being seven again and feeling the scared, isolated, nervous feelings about the dog, if she works through that moment or trauma, then she will be whole again. No longer under the thrall of her fear of dogs.

Which means:

The wound sits in your body of energy, and certain things will trigger it, such as loss, or rejection, or office politics or ungrateful children or the mean bus driver that morning. The best way to take the charge out of a wound is to address the first time that wound was created. When you heal that first wound, you clear the samskara behind it (samskara means a soul imprint) which allows you to fill that old space with the light of love and presence.

Which means:

When we experience triggers in dating, we are being called back to childhood and relationship wounds. It’s important to dive deep into what your pysche is trying to show you, because if you can get to the root of the wound, you can really change a lot in your energy and your life.

Also when you clear your shadow you become more compelling energetically, and less likely to attract people from a similar wound space (known as trauma bonding). That wounded space essentially is a sub-conscious invitation for people to come and fuck with you, since our sub-conscious worth and our wounds have a strong charge to them… if you haven’t cleared your wounds around heartbreak then you can do so in The Heartful course here.

UNHEALED HEARTBREAK AND CRICKETS

Another thing that may be happening is that you’re not getting any dates at all. If you’re hearing crickets then know that there are more wounds to heal, since these wounds are energetically blocking your ability to call in experiences. Head over here to heal any lingering heartbreak.