Heartbreak

“They say that when the heart breaks, the light gets in ”

Heartbreak is the hardest thing you’ll go through. Whether it’s the ending of a relationship, job, bankruptcy, friendship, a move overseas or a family member no longer talking to you — if you perceive a loss as painful and have unexpressed feelings about that loss then you will be dealing with grief.

So let’s take a moment to talk about the difference between heartbreak and grief.

Heartbreak lasts for a few moments, days or weeks, but grief can last for a lifetime, festering beneath the surface. Heartbreak is like the energetic young child whilst grief is like a tired middle-aged shadow. Time — and resolution — is the decisive factor between the two.

Heartbreak is a sudden splitting open of the fourth chakra where your heart space rests. Our bodies also experience the emotional pain as physical pain — hence the loss of appetite, the need to sleep, the actual feeling that you’re hurting.

Grief, meanwhile, is a long term issue — it has a tendency to close down the heart and retreat like a cat to the darkest corner of the house. Over time, lingering grief intrudes slowly into a person’s life and personality, dimming the inner light.

Heartbreak is easier to process given the right tools. Grief, meanwhile, has lived longer and can be harder to detect with the ordinary mind. This is why in the online course we use subconscious Inner Space Patternings (hypnosis) to get beneath the surface of the Ordinary Mental Consciousness (OMC). It is also possible to create these shifts through journaling and talking about your grief to a friend, which we do in our book The Heartful - Process.

I’ve had many clients who have lived for so long with grief, that when they do finally heal and process their pain their appearance actually changes — they lose weight, get a sparkle in their eyes and unsurprisingly they often land sexy new relationships because their new frequency is so strong and alluring.

Firstly, let’s look at grief, a most-misunderstood concept in our Western world today.

What exactly is grief?

Grief is our relationship to the unfinished business from a death, break-up or loss.

Often this can be a conflicting group of both positive and negative feelings about the loss.

As a simple example, you may feel relieved your marriage is over if it was dysfunctional, but equally, you may grieve your partner’s soul, the glimmer you first saw. You can feel sad your father died, but also relieved because he was sick and suffering for so long. It all gets down to what you need to communicate or express so that:

You can wrap up any unfinished business between you and the loss.

Effective grieving is about resolving the loss and its effect on you. By ‘resolving’ we mean — the journey you take to understand your relationship to the loss. This journey includes talking about it, crying about it and coming to terms with the confusing, disparate array of emotions you feel.

And since every relationship is unique, every grieving process will be different — but addressing your relationship to the loss is key.

Sadly, in our Western culture people don’t know how to grieve anymore. People tell you to move on, to be happy for other things in your life but this sort of behaviour leads to incomplete grieving. And incomplete grieving is where the dangers lie — addictions, sadness, lethargy, bad habits and a stalled life.

So what happens when we grieve fully?

We can’t take the loss event away but we can heal our relationship to that loss.

When our relationship to the loss is healed, when we resolve our thoughts and feelings around that loss then we start to feel more alive, happier and brighter as though the clouds have cleared and the sun is pouring in. There will be an abundance of energy to live warmly, with magnetism and spirit. Transformed grief ushers joy into your everyday life.

So if you’re ready to land a new frequency and to dive into a new life, a life you are in love with - from sexy new relationships to a career and good health, then you’re in the right place.

The new frequency that this heart-healing creates will totally transform your life and relationships, bringing you miracles, manifestations and mindset shifts.

So hold onto your hat as we start the first step here today…