Person of loss

Now you’re going to focus on your person of loss and explore what you need to say to them in order to come to terms with your grief. This is one of the most important aspects of the grieving journey, helping you to express fundamental issues and emotions that are blocking your heart’s true expression and your life’s pure joy.

So get out your pen and paper and sit in a quiet place.

Write Dear Person of Loss (their name), and let your pen run free for a few minutes.

What do you need to say to your person of loss (ex, ex-husband, ex-company, ex boss, deceased family member)?

Did you ever get a chance to communicate these things to them before?

Saying what we need to say can help us complete our grief, so write down everything you’d like to say to them.

Both the positive things, and the negative things.

Every relationship, especially significant ones, come with hopes, dreams and expectations for the relationship. When you lose that person, you must also grieve these aspects. So take a moment to think and write down —

What were your hopes, dreams and expectations for the relationship you had with this person?

Hopes:

Dreams:

Expectations:

And if it’s appropriate for you right now:

What is the main emotional quality or feeling that you can feel in your current heartbreak? (loss, fear, anger, sadness)

When have you felt this main quality in your life before?

What happened at this age?

Journal on this freely for five minutes. See where it takes you.

Take a moment to breathe into this…

Journal out anything else that comes up — any people, family or events you remember.

There is no right way — there are only impressions and feelings.