Quintessential feelings and qualities

Now that you have used this ISP to clear up old leaves and fragments of low self-worth, you now want to fill up these new spaces with your quintessence — your most authentic and ultimate expression of heart and soul.

Let’s break this down.

Feeling is the fulfillment of life.

God is a feeling. Love is a feeling. Bliss is a feeling.

We made the mistake in recent years to think we need to attach things and objects to these feelings. But our feelings don’t require a person or object attached to them, they just are. This is the way of the awakened soul.

Quintessential feelings are those qualities of our soul that shine out brighter than others

— and that we naturally channel and express when we are in our most authentic and awakened state.

Our quintessential feelings and qualities are a roadmap to the expression of our soul.

And thereby should be a roadmap to our lives.

Once you find the clarity and strength to live your life from this standpoint, the universe responds with offerings and people that are more aligned with what will bring you true joy and deep, inner peace (and abundance!)

Let’s break this down further:

Often we do the things we do (buy clothes, go traveling, eat chocolate) in order to feel a certain way. But it’s possible for us to focus on what we want to feel from an internal place, without placing a pressure on the external. When we feel something internally, and embody that from within us, it often draws things in the physical world toward it.

This is known as manifestation.

Manifesting how you want to feel, without an external action/person connected, is the ultimate expression of being alive and of living from your soul.

The bonus is that you can also draw in manifestations too if you want or need (more on that later).

THINK A MOMENT

What are your most quintessential feelings or qualities? Meaning, what feelings do you love so much that they reflect a soul-like quality to you?

They make you feel sparkly, deep, full, yummy, satisfied, excited on a soul-shaking level.

How to find your quintessentials

Find a notebook and pen. Get quiet and silence your phone. Let yourself respond freely to this exercise. There is no right answer.

Make a list of the ten favorite moments of your life.

Break those moments down into feelings and list them out.

To do this you’ll need a separate page.

(Eg. For me, going to a young playwrights festival on an island was the most amazing moment of my life because I met young writers like me from all around the world (community/connection/adventure/freedom), and we got to create joyfully, (creativity, joy, freedom) and then we all had so much fun (delight, freedom). I also had new connections to the best theatres in the UK and the US (creative power, prestige) which allowed me to feel like my career had value (elegance, prestige, potential wealth).

You’ll find, as you break down your four or five best life experiences, that the quinessentials overlap.

Get free with these (don’t overthink):

I crave

What I want more of (aside from time and money) is _________________

I need to give myself more permission to feel _________________

What really brings me alive is _________________

What turns me on is _________________

I feel like jumping in joy when

I shut down when

I get the grey feeling when

I get the bright rainbow colored feeling when

I was born to

But I keep

I want to use my life to express ________________

and then I want to _________________

Because _________________

I think I would be amazing if I

But I often dim my light when I

This person_______ lifts me higher

This person __________ takes me lower.

What’s different about me is that _________________

The best advice I ever received was______________________ because__________________

The best advice I ever received that I didn’t follow and I’m glad I didn’t is __________________

If I was dying and looking back at my life I would have wanted to have done the following:

Because I would have wanted to feel:

I would regret dying if I didn’t feel this on a daily moment:

If I knew that next year I would spend it alone on a mountain I’d bring only these two people and six things with me.

Why? What feeling do they represent?

Nature makes me feel

Cosmopolitain cities make me feel

Being bored feels like

When I’m sad or empty or depressed I feel it in my _________________

When I’m excited and turned on by life I feel it in my _________________

My joy comes from

I value

I believe in

Love smells like

Pleasure feels

Delight is found

Joy sounds like

Love is this color

This ________________ makes me feel

Because

Take a breath. You’re doing great.

Now answer these questions:

PEOPLE

Make a list of your favorite celebrities, famous people or known everyday people you look up to.

List down the three qualities in each that inspire you the most.

You can do this for friends or anyone that inspires you.

DESIRES

Make a list of manifestations, things or experiences that you deeply, really want.

Then list down how having those will make you feel.

Eg: To go to Paris and stay in a hotel. (Adventure + elegance + delight).

Eg: To buy a house in the country and pay it off. (Power + comfort + ease + security).

Try and find the common themes and feelings that arise in each.

EXPERIENCES

Write your five most elevated moments (eg a holiday, a fling, kissing a crush at sunset in Paris; or running wildly and naked into the ocean with a friend)

Break each experience into the core feelings that made it feel so good.

ACTIVITIES & INTERESTS

Write down the activities that you do when you’re meant to be working.

What do you google the most? Why?

What do you dream about the most?

What do you talk about most to your friends (when you’re not trying to impress)

When you are trying to impress then what do you try and talk about most? (often this isn’t a quintessential)

What would you really like to be talking about?

Now, go back and ffind the common feelings that connect these activities and interests. List them down and narrow it down to four or five quintessential feelings that you can base your life choices and activities on.

Take a few days if you need to do it, and by all means your list can change as your priorities do. Often we realize that our quintessential feelings and qualities boil down to common aspects.

Peace or love are usually on everyone’s list indirectly or directly (perhaps you have luxury, which is linked to comfort and security, which is linked eventually to peace).

Use your own instinct and be true to yourself.